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Have you been around a bunch of people and still felt alone? Have you looked at where other people were going and what they were doing and wondered, “why do I know them?” It’s weird when you finally realize that no one really knows you like you do. But at the same time, you understand that you are your best friend, biggest fan, your (excessive) sounding board, your everything.
This can be a bad thing, in a sense, but really overall you really should be your best friend. I mean, who else is going to laugh at your jokes, know the words to make your frown turn upside down, when you really need to take care of those nasty toenails? YOU! Spending quality time with yourself can be the best way to enlightenment. You start to understand that some thoughts of yours lead to certain emotions. You can be apart of a fantasy that no one needs to see (cause they wouldn’t understand, of course).
I’d like to give you some personal examples: Just today I was listening to a podcast and the lady said something that I thought sounded similar a cartoony way of talking. So, I repeated it out loud in my cartoony voice and busted a gut. I can make myself laugh all the time, I think I’m the funniest person on earth! I’ve found myself to be even wittier in social scenes because I’ve already played out my punchlines because I thought they were so funny.
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I know people that say that they can’t stand to be by themselves. They don’t like the thoughts that run through their heads and they are scared to even tell anyone how “psycho” they feel. I like to tell them that everyone has those thoughts, it’s what you do with them that makes you psycho. The more we feed into the notion that we are evil the worse these thoughts get. When we start feeding ourselves positively, humorous, and intriguing thoughts then we can turn our negative into a positive. That’s when spending time with yourself is crucial. You have to lean into your bad thoughts, understand them, validate them, and in turn, you show yourself compassion, self-love, and you start to create this amazing friendship.
Now, I’m not going to tell you that it’s easy, but it’s worth it. Anything worth doing is hard, right? It’s hard because mindset can be difficult to change. It’s only a minor set back in the long scheme of things, but once overcame, it can be exhilarating! Love yourself more than anyone else loves you.
I challenge you to take a week and do everything in your power to win you back. Take yourself to a massage, a long walk by the river, send yourself flowers, buy a delicious dinner, take a bath, anything that makes your soul sing with glee.